June, 2009
by Denise P. Kalm, DPK Coaching and CA, Inc.
Think I'm talking about TCP/IP here? Before you pull out a sniffer or run a trace, you need to check on the health of your professional network. Do you even have one? If you're a CMG member, you do have a network, but just like the network in your enterprise, your professional network requires maintenance. And you do have tools; you're not on your own.
Now, with tools in hand, it's time to get out and network. Your professional network should be comprised of people who can help you AND who you can help. Why is that important? When you seek out your network for help, especially for large requests like a job referral or a reference, people will be checking the balance on your Favor Bank. Keep that in mind when someone asks for help. The more you do and the more you have to offer, the bigger your balance, and the more you can reasonably request. Volunteer at your professional organizations and develop your skills and your reputation.
There are two types of networks.
I didn't mention the telephone because cold calling is not always the best way to start. Once you have established a network, you can grow it through a referral, and the initial contact may be by phone when you have a connection in common.
Whatever the method, when you reach out to a new person to add to your network, think win:win. Even if you are actively seeking a job, build the relationship first before asking for help. Show up at your best. In person, be professional, but don't be afraid to show your distinctive style. Be memorable. Create an elevator pitch (or several) - 1-2 sentences that tell who you are and what interests you. You can mention you are looking, but until you have established a connection, don't ask directly for help. That can be very off-putting. Better that someone volunteers.
Find common ground. That's why volunteering can be so great. Working together starts you off on a good footing for a friendship and friends make the best network. Listen more than you talk, giving them the compliment of your full attention. Always exchange cards and make notes on the card about where you met the person (and any other information you want to remember). Then, stay in touch. Contact doesn't have to be frequent, but your only contact cannot be a request for a major favor.
Categorize your network, so you know what you have built.
And finally, look for opportunities to make deposits in your Favor Bank. Send links and articles, answer questions, mentor, co-write articles, volunteer together.
"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one."
Jane Howard, "Families"
Stay tuned for another edition of "Your Career Coach. If you would like additional information or individual coaching for your life and your career, contact me at or see my web site: www.DPKCoaching.com.